How To Meet Women

Winter days are short enough without you wasting them home alone. If you’re looking for someone to help you heat up this season, why not try a pick up a woman during the day.

Of course, there’s a lot to be said for the traditional late night hook up. Meeting in boozy bars can help to ease both sets of nerves, and it goes without saying that you’re about to head to bed.

The only question is: are you going there together?

And that can be the problem. If you’re both busy wondering will we or won’t we, it can be hard to think about anything else. Flirting is supposed to be fun, but with sex looming large, all you can feel is the pressure to pull.

Daytime dates take that pressure away.

Dressed in your (best) everyday clothes, you’ll feel more like yourselves.

With the option of inventing prior engagements, you know escape can be easily made.

And, if things are going well, there are no obvious deadlines by which to make a move. With closing time many, many hours away, chances are you’ll feel much more relaxed, flirt more effectively, and make a better impression.

Somewhat ironically, by taking bed out of the equation, you’ll be increasing your chances of ending up there. And there’s nothing like afternoon nookie to warm your winter bones.

So, how do you go about finding a girl for your daytime escapades?

Well, the options are practically limitless.

Say you spot a cute girl in the supermarket, it’s easy enough to make small talk. Which does she prefer: red apples or green? You’re looking for the couscous: does she know where it might be? Initiate an apparently innocent conversation, and you’re well on your way to a daytime date. If she smiles back at you and keeps the chatter going, take a deep breath and ask if she fancies a coffee.

The same theory applies to so many situations. The luscious lady in the library, the gorgeous girl in the gallery, both can be greeted with relevant small talk. If she’s single and searching, if you seem like a genuine friendly guy, the chances are good that she’s going to respond.

Take yourself to places where girls might be. If there’s a daytime celebration or a sporting event, drop past and check it out. Grab a coffee in a cafe-bar, and smile at the girl sitting next to you. Keep your greetings light and inoffensive; if she’s looking for some company, she’ll quickly let you know.

And the daytime date works just as well with girls you’ve already met. If you’ve noticed someone but you’re not sure you fancy dinner and drinks, invite her for an afternoon coffee or suggest that you grab lunch together; it’s a good chance to gauge whether you want to be more than friends, and easy to play down if you decide that you’re really not interested.

Whether you’re after a long term liaison or some one off fun, shake up your dating routine this winter and prepare to feel the heat.

I came across a book that was written by a guy named Joseph that teaches guys how to successfully meet and approach women. Something that he wrote about in that book prompted me to do a little experiment.

Basically, the experiment was as follows (try it yourself): I went out to a local nightclub with a friend of mine and made a point to watch and listen to the pickup efforts of other guys. Here’s what we heard when the first group of super hot girls walked by;

“Good God, You’re Hot”, “Watcha doin’ later”, “Where ya goin’”, “Hey, come back here and hang out”, etc.

I couldn’t believe the crap that I was hearing. It shouldn’t surprise you to hear that most of the lines these guys used while trying to meet women (or any of the other pieces of crap lines I heard that night) did not yield the results that each and every guy were blindly hoping to get.

The FUNNY thing is, these guys’ piece of crap lines present “gold nugget” opportunities for you and your buddies. Here’s why! It should be no surprise that good looking women are always approached and that guys are always trying to meet them. The problem is, it’s usually by guys using the “piece of crap lines” that I mentioned earlier.

Here’s where you capitalize. It’s by using a technique that Joseph refers to as a situational opener. Basically, you’d use the other guys failed attempts as an opener (but you’re going to be much more creative, right?).

So these hot girls are walking by and you hear these pathetic lines being hurled at the girls AND YOU might say something like this: “Oh my god! Every single guy is trying to pick you up! How annoying is that? You aught to hire BODYGUARDS just to keep all these horny kooks at bay!”

Taking advantage of situational openers like these to approach women can open many doors that have previously been closed (for the other guys anyway).

In addition, it shows that you have a mutual understanding of the reality you are both experiencing. This can help create an instant connection between the two of you.

This is just one of hundreds of situational openers. Remember, if you do the same thing the other unsuccessful guys are doing, you’ll likely end up with the same crummy results.